Aging & Vitality

Reframing Aging

The dominant cultural story about aging is one of loss. We lose strength, flexibility, mental sharpness, beauty, relevance. The story goes that our best years are behind us, and what remains is managed decline.

This story is incomplete at best, destructive at worst.

Yes, bodies change with age. Yes, certain capacities diminish. But the research on aging paints a far more nuanced picture than the decline narrative allows—one where choice, practice, and attention make an enormous difference in how we experience our later decades.

The Inflection Points

Dr. Michael Snyder’s research at Stanford has identified specific ages where significant molecular changes occur: around 44, 60, and 78. These aren’t random numbers—they represent real biological transitions.

But here’s what matters: knowing about these inflection points allows us to prepare for them and respond to them. Aging isn’t one continuous slope. It has stages, and each stage invites a different response.

At 44, as perimenopause begins for many women, we might increase attention to hormone health, sleep quality, and stress management.

At 60, as the second major shift occurs, we might intensify focus on muscle maintenance, cognitive challenge, and social connection.

At 78, as the third transition arrives, we might prioritize fall prevention, community engagement, and meaning-making practices.

Each transition is an invitation to adapt, not a sentence to decline.

Healthspan vs. Lifespan

Modern medicine has gotten quite good at extending lifespan—keeping people alive longer. What it’s been less successful at is extending healthspan—the years of healthy, functional, vital life.

The gap between how long we live and how well we live is one of the most important health metrics, and it’s one where individual choices matter enormously.

Dr. Peter Attia and other longevity researchers emphasize that the goal isn’t just more years, but more good years. And the choices that close the gap between healthspan and lifespan are largely within our control.

What Actually Matters

Research points to a handful of factors that most influence how we age:

Movement. Not just exercise, but regular movement throughout the day. And within that, strength training becomes increasingly important with age. Leg strength at 60 is one of the strongest predictors of cognitive function at 80. This isn’t just about aesthetics—muscle mass is metabolically active tissue that supports everything from glucose regulation to immune function.

Connection. Loneliness is a health risk comparable to smoking. Meaningful social connection—real relationships, not just surface contact—protects cognitive function and physical health in measurable ways. Human connection isn’t a nice-to-have; it’s a biological necessity.

Sleep. The quality of our sleep affects virtually every system in the body. As we age, sleep often becomes more fragmented and less restorative. Prioritizing sleep hygiene—consistent schedules, dark rooms, limited screens before bed—becomes more important, not less.

Nutrition. What we eat matters, though the details are less clear-cut than diet culture would have us believe. Adequate protein supports muscle maintenance. Plant diversity supports gut health. Avoiding ultra-processed foods reduces inflammation. Beyond that, there’s room for individual variation.

Purpose. People with a sense of meaning and direction tend to live longer and healthier than those who don’t. This isn’t woo-woo thinking—it’s documented in research. Having reasons to get up in the morning has biological effects.

The Movement Piece

Dr. Kevin Stone, orthopedic surgeon and researcher, has studied athletic aging extensively. His observations:

Warm-up matters more as we age. The body needs more time to prepare for activity.

Recovery matters more as we age. What you could bounce back from in a day at 30 might take three days at 60.

Intensity should match capacity. Pushing through pain doesn’t work the same way it used to.

But—and this is crucial—none of this means slowing down. It means being smarter.

Women in their 60s, 70s, and beyond are completing ultramarathons, taking up new sports, and discovering physical capacities they never explored. Olga Kotelko started track and field at 77 and competed for 20 years. Alex Rotas photographs older athletes whose vitality challenges every stereotype about aging bodies.

The body’s capacity to adapt, grow stronger, and improve doesn’t end at some arbitrary age. It requires us to stay in the game.

Challenging Ageism

Ashton Applewhite, author and activist against age discrimination, points out that much of what we fear about aging is actually ageism—cultural prejudice that we’ve internalized so deeply we mistake it for reality.

We imagine aging as loss because our culture tells us it’s loss. We feel invisible because our culture stops seeing older people. We fear decline because we’ve been taught that age equals decline.

This matters because internalized ageism actually affects health outcomes. People who hold negative beliefs about aging tend to age worse than those who hold positive beliefs. Our stories about aging become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Challenging ageism isn’t just political work—it’s health work. Changing the story changes the outcome.

The Body as Sacred Vessel

Throughout life, the body accumulates marks—scars, wrinkles, changes in shape and texture. The cultural story tells us these are flaws, evidence of decay, things to hide or fix.

Another story: the body is a life journal. Every mark is a chapter. The scar from surgery, the stretch marks from pregnancy, the lines around eyes from decades of expression—these are evidence of a life lived.

The work of aging well includes making peace with the body’s history, treating it with the reverence it deserves not despite its marks but because of them.

Practical Scaffolding

A framework for supporting vitality across the decades:

Build and maintain muscle. Strength training two to three times per week, with emphasis on legs and core.

Move daily. Beyond dedicated exercise, incorporate movement throughout the day. Walk, garden, take stairs, stand while working.

Prioritize protein. Aim for adequate protein at each meal to support muscle synthesis.

Stay connected. Invest in relationships. Make new friends. Engage across generations.

Sleep well. Protect sleep duration and quality. This is when the body repairs.

Challenge your brain. Learn new things. Maintain curiosity. Don’t let cognitive habits calcify.

Find meaning. Stay connected to purpose. Contribute to something beyond yourself.

None of these require expensive interventions or complicated protocols. They require attention, consistency, and the decision to treat your body as worth caring for.

Go Deeper

These are the original writings this entry draws from:

The 9 Lives of Woman: The Body Across Life Stages

Longevity Science: What Actually Works

Embodiment Practice for the Aging Body

What Supports This

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